Dating Frustrations Solution

Once you set out to find your ideal match, the search can seem as if it’s taking forever. Impatience and frustration commonly occur once you immerse yourself in dating  — and finding love does not happen as quickly as it has for others.

Love may seem within reach, but also far away. Going on a great set of dates may offer hope and comfort that shatters when the relationship ends. Messaging someone new and planning to meet may offer excitement that dissipates if you are stood up. No matter what you face in the dating world, there is no denying that the search for love can be an emotional rollercoaster.

You can let go of the need to compare your dating life to anyone else’s as comparing generally leads to sadness, jealousy, anger, and further impatience. It can be difficult to grasp what it takes to find a partner because there is such a wide spectrum of the when, where, and how, especially if you believe love comes easy for others. Instead you can accept that love happens in different ways, in different speeds, and at different times.

Tips for Managing Your Chronic Stress

Were you aware that chronic stress is linked to the six leading causes of health issues?  Heart disease, cancer, stroke, lower respiratory disease, and accidents. Chronic stress can affect your brain, raise your blood pressure, and reduces your immunity and ability to heal.

At least 75% of doctor office visits are for stress-related complaints stemming from job stress.  It’s a $1 trillion per year “under the radar” health epidemic according to Peter Schnall, author of Unhealthy Work.

The cost to treat those with chronic diseases (from stress) is about 75% of the national health expenditures per the CDC. Chronic diseases cause 7 out of 10 deaths each year – but are preventable and treatable.

Chronic stress not only affects the physical aspects of your life such as health or general energy level, but it can affect job performance and personal relationships.

For this reason, every person needs a stress management strategy, a way to focus on personal empowerment and feelings of “loss of control” in check.

Dealing with cancer twice and a brain tumor diagnosis confirmed that I can’t take anything for granted. I want to be there

Tips for Choosing a Partner You Can Grow With

You met at the right time and everything just fell into place. You’ve dated plenty of other people but it has never felt this right. You’re ready to move past casual dating and take the next step. A big, scary, exciting step. When you find someone you’re ready to take that leap with, it isn’t unusual to struggle with a lot of thoughts: does this have a shot at the long run? Is what I’m feeling real? Will they be there through all the times, not just the easy ones but the truly challenging moments as well?

Here are three suggestions on how you can give yourself a little assurance that you’re choosing a partner who’s good for more than just dinner and a movie.

What Does the Future Hold?

First off, find out what they want for themselves and their own future. You’ve probably already talked about it; now it’s time to run it through your own internal filter. Do they say that they want someone that they can just have fun with and don’t want anything more serious?  Well, if they do, then believe them.  This

Relationship Thats Coming Apart

Your relationship started with great promise and that positive momentum carried the two of you forward for quite a while. But now the hopefulness and high expectations have dimmed, and things have become frayed  — a bit like your old throw rug. The reality of a once-bright relationship fading away is hard to deal with, if not downright heartbreaking. Here are ways to cope when your partnership looks like it’s dissolving:

  1. Evaluate if this is a rough patch or the beginning of the end. A relationship that seems to be “coming apart” doesn’t necessarily mean it’s absolutely, certainly over. The question becomes whether you should try to improve a troubled relationship or move on to better prospects.
  2. Carefully consider exactly what you want. How much should you try to push through problems versus admitting the partnership simply isn’t meant to be? Do lots of soul searching to answer that question for yourself.
  3. Project yourself into the future. Look ahead and envision what your life would be like with your current partner and without that person.
  4. Don’t be afraid to admit the truth to yourself and your partner. It may be painful to admit that you want a relationship to end, since it’s seems like

Stand Up for Yourself

One of the most salient truths about relationships is this: You teach people how to treat you. This applies to dating, work, friendships, and every other kind of relationship. All of your communication, verbal and nonverbal, accrues to show another person how you expect to be treated.

That’s why it’s crucial for you to stand up for yourself and refuse to be treated unfairly. To demonstrate respect for yourself and show others that you expect the same, start with these strategies:

1. Rewrite your script. Past experiences dating back to childhood may have left you with the belief that your opinions don’t matter. Do whatever you need to change erroneous or outdated messages about yourself.

2. Summon your inner strength. Self-respect and security come from deep within you.

3. Know precisely what you want. Become perfectly clear in your own mind what you want from any situation. If you are unclear, you’re likely to come across as wishy-washy.

4. Speak, don’t smolder. If you feel that someone is trying to take advantage of you or disregard your wishes, you might be tempted to silently fume and seethe. Remaining silent may avoid conflict but won’t resolve anything—or show respect for yourself.

5. Let body language work for

Someone Who May be Losing Interest

You and your partner were drawn together for many reasons–physical attraction, common interests, and more. For weeks and maybe months, the two of you got better acquainted, got closer, and everything looked positive.

But now you’ve started to sense and pick up small clues that he or she is losing interest. That person might be backing away from the relationship or looking for a change. If you are left wondering what to do, start here:

1. Resist the urge to be a mind reader. You might want to read into every little comment or gesture to gauge your partner’s interest level, but you can’t know for sure what’s going on inside another person’s head. Ever.

2. Consider if this is a period of temporary confusion. Emotions are fickle, and every relationship goes through ups and downs. This might be a matter of short-term uncertainty while evaluating feelings and your future together.

3. Try fanning the flames. Maybe the relationship has grown a bit stale and predictable. An infusion of excitement and freshness might bring sparks back.

4. Beware of overreacting. When a lover starts to feel distant, it can trigger all of our insecurities. Emotional upheavals and dramatic scenes will confuse matters even more.

5. Determine how long

How to Find Night Restaurants For Date

So you live in New York or are visiting soon and you want to know the best date night restaurants? No matter how long you’ve been together, what you’re celebrating or what you’re doing, Manhattan has a big array of dining options to make whatever evening you’re looking to have a success. From farm-to-table dinners to the best steaks on the planet, try one (or all!) of these go-to spots before the year is up:

Best For Post-Workout Date: Foragers Table

Location: Chelsea, 22nd and 8th

New York’s workout scene is growing rapidly, so it only makes sense that farm-to-table fresh ingredients would make their way to the food scene, too. The European-looking Foragers Market has a seasonal menu at their restaurant, Foragers Table. After you work out with your date – might we suggest boxing or indoor cycling as a go-to couples’ workout – book a table here for organic, locally-sourced dishes.

The spot: As you approach the corner of 22nd and 8th, you’ll see the modern and sleek storefront and might miss the side entrance to the restaurant. But once you do find it, you’ll feel right at home with dim lighting, pops of color, and comfortable seating. One side of the restaurant

Best Love Advice

One thing we can all agree on: In the world we live in, there is no shortage of information, input, and advice … and no shortage of people dispensing it. An abundance of relationship experts and love gurus offer tips and rules for successfully pursuing romance. Some of this advice is very helpful; some, not so much. (We hope our articles fall into the helpful category.)

All of that said, the best advice about your love life might come from a source you are tempted to overlook: YOU. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else does, you understand your past joys and struggles, and you’ve gained insights into romance and relationships over the years. So while taking in guidance from wise counselors, be sure to heed the wisdom that comes from yourself.

Here’s how:

Honestly assess your dating history. Lots of people look back on former relationships and remember only the enjoyable, ecstatic moments. Others dwell only on the headaches and heartaches. Recognizing both the positives and negatives will help keep things in perspective — and help you let go of the past more easily and to move forward with wisdom.

Understand your dating fears. Nearly everyone has fear when it comes to dating:

Holds On To You

I became an incomplete paraplegic at the age of 22, because of a road accident. Running was the thing I loved to do most in life and it was taken away from me in a split second without warning or consultation.

Meeting the man who put me in a wheelchair was not going to be easy. I didn’t feel anger towards him or crave retribution, but I was apprehensive about getting in touch with him, hearing his voice, seeing him in person. My concern was that it might be a negative experience—and that would make things worse for me, not better. But I also knew that if I didn’t face up to this I would never be free of it. I wanted to know what happened in the cabin of that truck just before it hit me and what the driver’s reaction had been and how his own life had turned out. I wanted to know for sure that it was an accident, that my paraplegia was an unfortunate consequence of a random event.

Dialing the number was extremely difficult. It was nothing compared to facing up to the injuries I’d suffered when I woke up in the spinal unit at the

Things to Look For in a High Quality Man

If you met an amazingly wonderful, high-quality man today, would you be able to recognize him?

I know that most of my clients and women I speak to on a regular basis can’t. They are often concerned with a list of qualities and accomplishments that are watered down and often shallow.

When I ask them what they’re looking for, they start listing a bunch of adjectives that most of us want; loving, giving, handsome, successful, kind, tall, etc. But if we all want the same thing, why can’t we find it?

It’s because we get stuck in the semantics rather than the character. That’s the reason women waste time on unavailable men and don’t recognize the good ones.

In truth, there are 4 crucial qualities you should be looking for in a high-quality man:

1. Integrity

By definition: the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness

In practice, a man who has integrity is a man of his word. He keeps his promises and shows you his intention through his action. He doesn’t just talk the talk, he walks the walk. You can trust a man with integrity to follow through and show up in your relationship in a positive way.

His moral compass rules his

How to Make First Date Conversation

Dating apps are useful ways of finding love in today’s world. Surprisingly, many successful long-term relationships began with one click. But it’s also possible to waste a LOT of time hoping for miracles.

Dating in the digital age is hard enough, but how do you make the most of that all-important first date by having a conversation that balances hope and reality so you don’t waste precious time on a relationship that will ultimately go nowhere?

As a psychotherapist, talking to strangers is my trade. Each time I interview a new patient, we are both trying to decide whether we should take our relationship to the next level. Therapy is an intimate relationship that flourishes if the chemistry is right. Do I think I can be helpful? Does the patient feel comfortable with me? Are we a good match? I might be a perfectly good therapist, but if there is no chemistry, we won’t get very far.

Many of my patients are also interviewing for intimacy — but of a personal kind. They courageously go online seeking a relationship that can grow and develop into a special bond. But how do you make the most of that first encounter to decide whether a real

Know if Your Date is Over His or Her Ex

Exes are a fact of life for most of us. And that’s something you can deal with just fine, because you, too, have significant others in your rearview mirror.
The issue is whether or not your date is over—really over—his or her ex. You can move forward with confidence if you know your new interest has truly left the past in the past. Here’s how:

1. Ample time has passed. Hurrying into a new relationship is never a good idea. The heart needs to heal and the head needs to get clear.

2. You’ve got a fresh start. Your date isn’t drawn to places and activities enjoyed in a previous relationship. Every experience with you is a new discovery together, just the two of you.

3. You feel reassured. At a certain point, it’s okay to ask how he/she feels about the ex. Listen carefully to the response and see if your confidence is bolstered.

4. Keepsakes have been discarded. They don’t need or want tangible reminders of the previous relationship.

5. There is an absence of ex talk. Your date has the wisdom and sensitivity to forego references to his/her ex. More important, they have no need to talk about a past relationship.

6. But they will talk — if you ask. This person doesn’t

Dating a Recipe for Relationship Disaster

Modern dating has a lot of positives. We use the internet to meet people we would never be able to otherwise meet. (It’s how I met my husband!) It also creates complications we never had before, particularly with texting and dating.

Texting and dating definitely isn’t just for 20 year olds anymore. As The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40, I hear endless dating dilemmas that are created by texting. Here’s are a couple examples of many:

“Sue” connected with a man online. He instantly started texting her. He sent her pictures of his son’s baseball game and told her about his day at work. She told him about her car trouble and he told her to come to him for help next time.

Then they had a coffee date. It went well. They “talked” (texted) all day for days. He complimented her and made her laugh. He told her how busy he was and she felt flattered that he was keeping in touch.

After two weeks the texts tapered, and then he stopped responding. She asked me, “I thought he was so into me. What should I do???”

“Melissa” stayed up until 3 AM texting with her dude. They had one date

Someone Who Grew Up in the Eighties

No one who lived during the 80s knew it would become such an iconic decade. The big hair, shoulder pads, massive political events, and colorful celebs … it was an epic time.

Whether you look back on that era with fondness or fright, you should look favorably on dating someone who grew up during the eighties. Here’s why:

1. Videocassettes! Your partner may have recorded favorite TV series like “Knight Rider,” “The A-Team,” and “Miami Vice.” Does it get any better?! You will, however, have to locate a VCR.

2. Your partner will give you a mixed tape—on an actual cassette tape. Take a trip down memory lane as you hear forgotten favorites: The Human League, Bananarama, Sheena Easton, and Adam Ant.

3. Relive your glory days by watching famed 80s flicks. Resurrect your inner teen and cue up “Pretty In Pink,” “The Breakfast Club,” “St. Elmo’s Fire,” “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off,” or “Fast Times at Ridgemont High.”

4. Get better acquainted by discussing which 80s type you were. Many people identified with a particular group. Could it be Goth, headbanger, jock, nerd, prep, skater, or valley girl?

5. Your love might show up outside your house hoisting a boombox. And of course the song playing will be Peter Gabriel’s “In Your

Chronically Difficult Person

Everyone has bad days. Everyone goes through rough patches. You’ve been there yourself. Someone you care about is overwhelmed or stressed to the point of snippiness and name-calling, or worse, a complete meltdown.

It’s surprising and annoying, but you understand. You have compassion. You make an exception because you know that it’s temporary. Things will change. They’ll be alright. They fall into the “Momentarily Difficult” category.

But, then, there are the others: the “Chronically Difficult.” These are the people who suck you in and spit you out twice as fast. Their motto seems to be “Come closer. Go away!”

It could be an impossible-to-please parent. That family member who ruins every gathering could be one. Or a co-worker who makes you want to pull the covers over your head and miss a day’s pay.

What if it’s your partner? S/he started out so sweet, so interested, so interesting, and understanding. She did everything she could to please you. He showed his thoughtfulness in all the little ways that count. You really felt seen, heard, known, appreciated, and accepted. It was a match made in heaven and you were on Cloud Nine.

Except, there were these dark clouds, fleeting at first, and then they slowly moved in

The Reason That You Need for Stop Trying to Find Yourself

In this fast-paced, high-tech world we often feel lost, confused, and absent of meaningful connections to self and others. We’re becoming numb, deflated to the negative behavior of the housewives of stupidity and the fantasy images too often portraying our gender.

Our lives spin like a revolving door and we certainly don’t have a year to sit on a mountain top to find ourselves, but here’s the secret, we don’t need to find ourselves …we’re right here, housed in this gorgeous vessel called a body, that’s been with us since the day we were born.

We just need let go of what think we should be and remember to just BE true to ourselves and recognize that our total well-being cannot be separated from what we think, feel, and do for a meaningful life…but how do we get there?

Own it, Feel it, Live it: These are three simple steps, our mantra for a new way of living by reconnecting and rebalancing our mind, body, and spirit, our core essence, for a deeper feeling of self, clarity, and growth for a happier, healthier whole life.

Step 1. Own Your Power

Be self-aware: step into a relationship of trust and well-being with no one other than

Story About Find a Relationship

Dear Sara: I never really have trouble attracting dates to be honest — I am a former model (although never did much professional work but suffice to say, I am conventionally attractive/fit) and also a lawyer to boot. I’ve been told men may find me intimidating by females and some men have admitted this although others say I appear friendly and they don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m not sure.

My personality has changed quite a bit over the years in that I have become more social and friendly, a bit more socially normal let’s say (I used to be quite introverted and socially awkward I think) and it’s a bit difficult to describe my personality. I appear very different around different people. I know I have some insecurities because I was quite sheltered in my youth/upbringing; hardly saw any movies referenced in pop culture or TV shows while a teen (therefore hugely catching up now although I was never much into movies to begin with… maybe due to being single so long..never had weekly movie nights with a bf, etc.) and these insecurities still play on me at times. I also grew up quite poor so I don’t connect on the

Together Relationship Tips

This is not the 50s or even the 90s. Relationships seem to be more and more transitory. Divorce rates are high, break-ups frequent, and long-term commitment is more the exception than the rule. There is hope, as there do exist some simple, universal, essentials that people require from their partners. These needs may be simple, but they are not easy to provide or to obtain from your partner.

The 10 Essential Human Needs:

1. Safety – Our instinct to survive supersedes all other needs! Therefore, our first priority on the deepest unconscious level – and sometimes on the conscious level – is to stay safe. We can provide SAFETY for our partner by not attacking them with words or actions, and by not threatening to end the relationship – even at those moments when we might think it or feel like leaving.

2. Respect – Right after safety comes respect as a primary need. When you show respect to someone, you take them seriously and give them consideration and importance as a fellow human being. A major trigger of hurt or anger is when a person feels disrespected. With mutual respect, relationships have a solid foundation that provides the opportunity to work through

What do you plan on first date

Somewhere between deciding that I want to go out with someone and our first date, there is a question that I dread. “So, what do you want to do?” Occasionally, I’ve gone out with guys who had it all planned, who invited me into a narrative they’d already created, but for the most part, the decision is collaborative.

Perhaps I’m a little more anxious than some might be about this, but it does feel like there is a lot riding on our first activity. I don’t want to lock myself into something that requires a couple of hours, for instance, unless I already know my date well enough that I’m sure we’ll have plenty to talk about. Whenever I need a reminder of why this is important, I remember one date which started with dinner and ended with two rounds of miniature golf. We didn’t have enough to talk about to get us through dinner. As we putted brightly colored balls, I watched a young couple, probably in high school, a hole or two in front of us. They were chatting and flirting, he was helping her set up her shots. They clapped for each other when each sunk

Survival Guide to Online Dating

Let’s be honest – browsing the wilderness of online dating can feel like sending your ego straight into a land mine field. Not only does online dating encourage a judgmental attitude – it requires it. We find ourselves making snap decisions based on superficial criteria, and ourselves being evaluated by the snap decisions of others. We are at once too good and not good enough. With every profile “like” and unreturned message, the ego experiences a subtle roller coaster of pride and devastation.

And the actual dates? They require the emotional balance of a tight rope walker. It’s no secret that the average person in real life bears little resemblance to their best photo, which happens to be their profile head shot. Is dinner too much pressure for a first date? (Yes.) Is it disrespectful to date more than more person at a time? (No.) When is the right time for sex? (Depends.) In our world of feedback loops and curated reality, intentions and values vary from person to person as widely as the millions of channels on YouTube. Every person is a universe unto themselves, an algorithm of preferred music genres and sex positions. The options for today’s single person